A really thought provoking blog on the difficult subject of pet bereavement by Carrie Kearns
There are times as a pet owner that we know are inevitable but no less distressing.
Making the decision for palliative care, or euthanasia are the hardest decisions we can make. Having to live with not only being responsible for consenting to the ending of our pet’s life, but knowing we then have to go on without them and work through the pain this brings.
You may be lucky to have a good family and friend network, where there is support wherever and whenever you need it. But sometimes you may want to speak to someone neutral, there may be a worry that family and friends are getting tired of the talk revolving around your grief.
You may find that friends and maybe family members are not very open to the idea that a pet is worthy of the pain and grief you feel. That surely, they are just a pet and there is no need to feel this way, pull yourself together and carry on.
There is support outside of your social circles. There are people such as me who have trained extensively in the area of Companion Animal Bereavement Counselling.
I was a Veterinary Care Assistant for 16 years. I have seen many a pet pass, I have seen many a pet that had already passed. Some were owned, some were strays and every companion that I prepared for the crematorium received loving words, pets and dignity and respect.
In 2001 I completed and passed the Diploma in Companion Animal Bereavement Counselling and have undertaken many other courses since. Including a Advanced Diploma in Bereavement Counselling and Thanatology.
I use my years of experience in veterinary practice to help me to help my clients. I am able to offer different perspectives, to reassure where I can about what happens at the vets at the last visit.
I call myself an emotional sponge, I am here to listen and help to lift some of the burden you may be feeling.
I send out a pre session questionnaire/consent form which has some questions on it that help me to help you. When someone books a session, they fill out the form and then I use the answers given to begin to work out how to help.
Talking to me via phone, e mail, zoom or face to face gives you the chance to say everything you need to say. To vent, to offload as it were, to talk to a neutral party who will never tire of hearing what you have to say. Someone who will never judge you, belittle you or downplay what you are going through. I am a safe space and sometimes the only person who you may be able to really be open with.
I try to help to untangle the grief, the thoughts, and offer you ways to cope, to manage the pain and to see a way forwards.
If you would like to book a session please do so via my website
Here you can book an appointment or book a free 10-minute chat so you can talk to me and get a feel as to whether you feel I would be the right counsellor for you.
‘I’m ready to listen, when you’re ready to talk’.
Carrie Kearns ACC Dip PBC, VCA, Cert Pet Bereavement BC, Adv Dip BCT, MACCPH, Member CMA.
NLP Practitioner and Master NLP Practitioner.